I held the phone close to my ear and listened to the voice on the other end. Suddenly that feeling, deep inside, welled up and I felt sick to my stomach. The news crashed through my understanding and landed somewhere in the unknown. A friend had made a decision that would significantly affect our relationships and community. That was years ago, but since then, other difficult circumstances have been woven into the tapestry of our story.
There are times when I fantasize about a rewind button. Words. Reactions. Decisions. The vantage point from hindsight is much clearer.
Yet while in the midst of a complex situation, there is a realization that a great deal more gray than black and white exists. It is often hard to discern what steps to take and what action is needed.
As we have wrestled, there is a truth that has risen out of ashes, unearthed and untouched by the fire.
It has always been the answer. And it always will be.
In any situation, no matter how thick with conflict or blanketed with layers.
Peter Strople, a friend of mine and business man, has a quote that says, “When in doubt…love.”
Through this conflict discernment process, one thread determines what the outcome will be, not matter the decision. If love is a part, it will profoundly affect the relationship.
Are you struggling with your teenager? Try love.
Do you find yourself in a marriage tired and worn by the years? Try love.
Is there tension in a friendship or relationship that seems beyond repair? Try it.
There is nothing to lose, and great peace to be gained.
We may not have a rewind button, but we can shape the future. Decide today that regardless of what happens, love will be the mark you leave.
QUESTION: What does love look like to you in the middle of a complex or difficult situation?